Positive 1st Impression - Check Your Vital Signs

In the dating game, a positive 1st impression is vital. Let's talk about how to bring out the best version of yourself and make everyone appreciate your positive traits. It's the only way to attract a woman's interested enough for her to invest her time in you.

Showing genuine interest in her is crucial

This is a non-negotiable aspect of dating, period. It's plain to see that being all ears with what she has to say is pleasing to her.

It's the quickest way to build rapport because allowing her to share herself with you generates positive feelings. Admit it, doesn't it feel good when you talk about yourself? Let the woman indulge in this and you'll reap the benefits.

A good communicator has the ability to listen to someone, giving full attention. You’re not only gathering useful information about her, you're not distracted with what to say next.

Guys talk differently among themselves. When you and your buddies get together over a few beers, there's this tendency to outdo one another with funny jokes and one-liners.

Women are different. They're more into sharing their thoughts without placing their own spin on what the other person said.

You can adapt to this kind of communication practice and become more attractive in a woman's eyes. Simply put, she'll be more appreciative if you don't interrupt, just listen to her.

Keep the conversation going with the right questions

It might not be obvious to you, but things could go south if you give the impression of being self-centered by talking about topics that are only interesting to you.

See that girl you're talking to? She's being polite by nodding every once in a while but the truth is, you're boring her socks off.

This is a classic mistake that a lot of men make. They confuse a woman's graciousness with actual interest in their lame stories. What happens is that these oblivious guys get so worked up in spinning their tale that they unknowingly disregard her interests.

Many women have a good sense of the things that are particularly important to the person they're talking to and ask related questions accordingly. Learn how to reciprocate this gesture by steering the conversation towards topics that interest her.

She'll likely have a good time talking to you because you're showing that you care about the things that are personally relevant to her. Think of it as leading her on, asking the right questions will get her motor running because she won't be able to resist such a great conversation.

Don't disrupt her circle of friends

Women of beauty are rarely alone. They have their friends to keep woman chasers from boring them with overused pick-up lines and groveling approaches.

So you're standing on the other side of the room, pondering on how to go about this predicament. Finally, you bring yourself to go over there and start your opening routine.

As in most cases, she's among a group with of guys and girls. The wrong way to handle this situation is to treat the rest of her pack as if they don't exist. That’s the wrong approach pal.

In your zeal to overrun the obstacles in your path, you assume that the quickest way to attract the girl is to ignore her friends. That strategy usually will make it more difficult to zero in on her, because you'll trip her security system.

You'll only earn the grievance of her companions when going this route. The classic maneuver in this case would be to befriend them and dismiss the girl you're actually interested in.

Sounds contrary to what common sense would suggest, doesn't it? But this approach works. Why? It's because you're not putting her in a defensive mode by directly conveying your interest to her. Since she assumes that you're not after her, she'll be able to relax as you express indirectly your social value via her friends.

You can do this by relaying stories about yourself which have social value embedded in them. For instance, you could tell them about the crazy weekend you and your friends had, and how you helped them out of trouble.

Not only does this imply that you're an alpha male in your group, you're also the go-to guy. Both of these attributes suggest the kind of value you have. The object of your attraction won't think you're bragging to her because she "just happens to be within hearing range".

What's more, you're also showing her that you're not there to wreck the harmony of her social life, but to improve the quality of it. Once you get on her friends' good side, you'll look all the more attractive because their approval gives you a special qualification.

Men that come recommended by your potential woman’s sphere of influence automatically will give your social value a boost. As you may know, women are inclined to align themselves with such a guy.

This may introduce the perfect opportunity for you to joke around with her to further disqualify yourself as a threat.



Let's sum it up...

• Interact with women while keeping your ears peeled at all times. You're more likely to attract them if you learn how to pay attention to what they're saying. This also helps you to know her better and figure out what makes her tick.
• Be an interesting guy by asking her interesting questions. And by "interesting" I mean "topics that interest her". Nothing brings on a good emotional aura better than great conversation.
• If she's with her friends, impress them to get to her. This is much better than not taking into account the obstacles that stand in your way. Win over the guards to get to the queen!

Basically, that's it. Don't forget to take a look over "Connect & Commit", an essential read if you are serious about creating a lasting relationship and commitment.

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Want to Impress the Women You Meet?

Image via Wikipedia Is it a strenuous effort for you to impress women? I mean, do you strike out every time you try to do something impressive that will draw her attention to you? Do you say stuff as if it's awesome, thinking it will impress her, only to be left feeling like a moron?

Maybe you're trying too hard

Well, isn't it time all that changed? I'm going to share with you some particular knowledge on impressing women and the best part is...it's not that hard to do! You just have to open your mind to the information I'm about to tell you.

Listen, I’ve got this friend who is always complaining about this sales man he works with, Geno. You have probably met guys like Geno. He's the type guy who dropped out of high school, talks like a wise guy but nevertheless has a good job making boo coo bucks and is surrounded by women.

Why is this high school dropout who failed miserably in school so successful at sales? How can he be better off than you? After all, you acquired an education, you had the good grades and you’ve worked your butt off the last several years. It just doesn't seem fair, does it?

Truly, the answer is pretty simple. There’s an old business saying that is widely accepted on its own merits. It states, “People buy from people.” Guys like Geno lack book-smart skills but they make up for this with people skills. That is why customers and women buy from him. These dudes may not have passed mathematics but they do know that if you add confidence plus charm, subtract anxiety alone with self-doubt, your chances of success simply multiply.

Causing People to Like You

You can’t force people to like you. You just have to know how to create a memorable impression. For myself, the most important attitude to have is to not care whether or not a person likes you. This goes for both men and women. The fact of the matter is this. You can’t make everyone to like you it’s unimaginable. To be honest, there are many people just not worth the time.

Women are attracted to open minded, unpredictable men. Unpredictability creates interest as long as it doesn't go off the deep end. It’s also helps for making male friends, even new business partners. Remember, at the end of the day... people buy from people. So, if people like you they’ll do business. But if not, you’re S.O.L. It won't matter how smart or how good looking you are.

Creating an Impression

Impressions are much the same as expected value. Good impressions add value, bad impressions decrease value.

For instance, people frequently want the things they think they can't have. Objectives that seem out of reach are often objects to exert effort or energy for, thus creating a form of value. When you're not concerned as to whether or not people like you, they most likely will be drawn towards you. You’ve just created an impression of being carefree or unworried (laid back, not to be confused with lazy). This is an appealing attribute.

This does not mean that you should put people off or act like a snob. You must be friendly, have an open mind and show concern for others well being.

Do the Unexpected

Have you ever noticed when bozos get girls they often act as though it’s the last thing on their mind? It’s as if they could care less if the girls were around them. The reason this attitude works so well is because the dude is doing the opposite of the expected. Many women have come to expect fellows to work hard for them, to be at their bidding. Guys such as Geno don’t do that because they’re calm and self - confident.

Smooth guys like Geno say things that make girls curious such as, "Wow, I just can't believe how much my life has changed since I left the homestead..." or "Say, I feel like I can actually trust you. I have some things I've never been able to tell anybody but I feel as though I can tell you."

Girls relish secrets, so if you can hint at having some secrets, you're guaranteed to hold her interest. When she's interested, guess what... you're in control. You can tease her by saying something to affect of, "Oh, you'll have to wait till next time to find out the details," or, "Woman, stop being so nosy! This stuff is personal. I'm not sure that I know you well enough yet." Many women enjoy to be led on and do the chasing.

By doing the unexpected you’re doing something someone isn’t used to, whether it’s a man or a woman. You’re breaking their standard concept of normal. All bets are off and they’re curious!

Enjoy Yourself

No matter what happens, it's important that you have fun. When you meet a girl at the bar, what do you usually ask her? “What’s your name?” or “What do you do for a living?” Boring because it's predictable. Your chances of hitting it off with her are pretty slim.

Check this out, what would happen if you did something she’s never encountered before? Now think of something you’ve never done before, something off the wall. Not rude, not arrogant, just fun.

Imagine going up to a girl and challenging her to a game of rock-paper-scissors, the loser buys the next drink. How different is that? Now you have just produced an impression of you as a unique, fun-loving guy. This is a positive trait.

When you can spark an emotion in someone, it will make an impression whether it’s good or bad. The ability to be unpredictable gives you the opportunity to turn an encounter with women from something intimidating into a chance of fun and enjoyment.

View related content on vital 1st impressions:

• Making That Positive First Impression in the Dating Game
• How to Make That Vital First Impression With Women
• 3 Ways to Impress the Ladies You Meet

Making A Good First Impression With Women

Image via WikipediaWhy does anyone ever pay attention to anything and what causes a woman to give someone or something her attention?

When Strangers Meet

First and foremost, always look your best. I know this sounds obvious but you'd be surprised by how many men don't understand the importance of this simple tip. You never know when the girl of your dreams will turn up, or where. And it’s become a bit of a cliché because it’s true... first impressions really do count.

Some Figures to Consider From Tiffany Taylor's Studies

If you make a good first impression on a woman, you have a 90% chance of hooking up with her at that point (10% of women for whatever reason will be unreachable for most men at any point... she might like women herself etc).

If you make a bad first impression your chances of hooking up with her are reduced drastically to just 20%. This means that to make her attracted to you after the first 3 minutes of meeting her will be incredibly difficult if her first impressions of you is bad.

It’s the difference between climbing a mountain and using a helicopter to fly up one. Good first impressions mean you’re on your way to the top in the helicopter, bad first impressions mean you have a difficult climb to success... no helicopters for you.

Honestly, I can't stress this enough... always try to look your best.

The 5 S’s of First Impressions

• Shave
• Shower
• Style
• Smell
• Shoes

Remember these 5 S’s and always take care of them before you go out.

Why are shoes my number 5 S?

Your shoes are the first thing a woman really notices about your clothing and hence your appearance. Make sure your shoes are clean and fashionable.

What you wear is very important. I could try to recommend a certain look but as with all things fashionable by the time you read this it may have changed.

Get the latest GQ magazine or other fashionable men's magazine's and imitate the styles you see there... most women don't really care what labels you are wearing as long as you look good so you don't have to spend the big bucks on clothing.

Many guys I help dress better usually comment on how strange they feel wearing clothes they feel uncomfortable in, but nine times out of 10 they start to feel natural and even confident wearing their new wardrobe within days.

Make sure you smell good. Again this is extremely important. Remember how you feel when a woman walks by you and she smells soooo good... you feel an instant attraction even though you don't know her. Yes indeed, that's how women feel too.

Wear a good-quality cologne, but don't spray too much.

One squirt on both sides of the neck, and one squirt on both wrists... maximum. You don't want to smell too overpowering.

I recommend cool water by Davidoff or John Paul Gautier for Men (often called JPG love juice because women love it). If they don’t sell it where you are, try to order some from abroad, this stuff is great!

And here's a great little secret that I have found will help you actually pickup about 24% of women without saying a word to them! Not a single word! And no rejection either. You won't find this anywhere else either. What you need to do is...

Click Here To Read More Tips on Making A Great First Impression On Women by Tiffany Taylor

3 Effective Ways to Make a Great First Impression

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It's all about communicating with women in a fun, easy, and genuine manner, which will seriously increase your attraction!

First impressions are important. And if you want to create an enjoyable social life for yourself, populated with interesting, attractive people who think that you're the best thing since sliced bread, then you should know how to create a first impression that's going to do you justice.

So, with that in mind, here are the three most effective ways for you to cultivate a great first impression in a way that's going to showcase your good points and show everyone just how attractive and interesting you are.

Always Be Interested In Them

This is the number-one rule of socializing. Dale Carnegie, author of "How to Win Friends and Influence People" says that there is nothing quite so flattering to others as your exclusive attention.

Here's a fact for you, people will always be far more interested in themselves than they are in you. You will make more friends in 2 months by taking an interest in others than you will in 2 years by trying to interest others in you.

Really, it all boils down to being a good listener. Most people fail to make a good impression on others because they're too interested in thinking about what they themselves are going to say next. They're not listening to what's being said. They're not really interested in the other person at all. They're merely interested in that person as a receptor for their own witticisms and pithy one-liners.

Being a good listener is especially important when it comes to conversing with women. Take a moment to consider how different the sexes are in terms of communication.

Men frequently enjoy competing amongst themselves. They interrupt one another as a form of dominance, to show who is the "alpha male". They compete over who is the most knowledgeable, who is the funniest, who has the most to say on any given topic, etc.

Women, on the other hand, express respect and liking for one another by showing intense personal interest in what other people have to say. Where a man will strive to inject his own note into the conversation and "put in his two cents' worth", a woman will show good manners and affection for her conversational partner by listening to what that person has to say.

If you want to make a good first impression (score big points) with a woman, shut out all other distractions and focus yourself 100% on her and what she is saying to you.

Always ask questions

Most women are accustomed to taking a guiding role in a conversation. They do this by suggesting conversational topics to the person they're speaking with quite simply, they ask plenty of questions. Well mannered women will ask questions about topics that they sense the other person holds dear.

Women are accustomed to asking plenty of questions and listening interestedly to the answers. Even if the answer doesn't particularly interest them on a genuine level, they will still smile and nod as if they are interested, because that's what a well bred, classy woman will do.

Danger!! This is where most men screw up. They mistake this classiness for genuine interest and they get so tied up in the pleasure of being questioned thoroughly on a subject close to their hearts, by a person who appears to be completely fascinated by what they have to say, that they forget to return the favor. Most men lose the interest of the woman they are speaking to by being a self-centered conversationalist.

If you want women to love talking to you, then surprise them. Show them that you are unlike 99% of the other men out there, and take an active interest in her. Match her question for question. And if you truely want a positive first impression, take a "feminine" role in the conversation and guide the conversation yourself. Ask her all about herself. She'll be fascinated and she won't be able to resist coming back for more.

Don't Out-Alpha Other Men

Let's say you see one (or two, or three ...) really attractive females in a group when you're out and about one night. You want to go over and introduce yourself, maybe strike up a conversation. However, there's a fly in the ointment, they're standing in a group of other men.

You're not sure if these men are interested in the women in the same way that you are ... but you're not taking any chances. You don't want any competition for these women. You want to get rid of these men, and right now. So you decide to take action.

You march over and insert yourself into the group, angling yourself between one of the women and her male friends. You introduce yourself. You say hello to the women but as part of your plan to alienate the men and eradicate potential competition, you don't make any social overtures to the men whatsoever. You're hoping that your message will sound itself loud and clear:

"I'm taking over here. There's no room for you. Go away." Please, tell me you've never made this mistake!

This is a huge, huge social fumble to commit (bad first impression). Not only will it raise the men's hackles (because let's face it, only a man with really low self-esteem would permit himself to be humiliated in this manner). This kind of blunder will also drive the woman away.

Mind Your Manners!

A woman isn't going to be pleased that you're being rude to other members of her group. She isn't going to be flattered or happy because you can't get on with the other men in her life. She wants to know that you're going to make her life better than it already was. She wants to be able to receive reinforcement from her friends about what a great guy you are. Not only will that make her feel certain of her feelings towards you, but it will also increase her own social value. Dating a man who's popular will raise her social status among her friends.

If you want to make a good first impression, then focus on her friends! Show that you're going to be an asset in her life, not someone who's going to alienate her from her social circle.

Be Friendly to Her Group

The more attention you pay to the group that she's with, the better off you will be. Through paying attention to her group, you're showing that you respect her and you'll also make friends and allies out of people who could potentially have been competitors.

If a woman is with a group, never focus on her to the exclusion of others. Focus on everyone in that group, and you will make a fabulous first impression on her buddies and on her ( then she can get the added reinforcement from her friends, later on, about what a stand-up guy you are).

Set out to make friends with everyone she's hanging out with, she'll be a lot more receptive to your overtures with the blessing of her friends.

These are just three of the ways that you can make a great first impression with women. And the best part is, these rules don't just apply to women! They apply to everyone. You can use them to increase your ratings with females, or to make more friends, or to do better in business situations, or just to make yourself well liked in general.

To find out the full scope of what you need to do to create an unstoppably attractive first impression, you should read the book "Conversation Chemistry". It's available now at:

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