Want to Impress the Women You Meet?

Image via Wikipedia Is it a strenuous effort for you to impress women? I mean, do you strike out every time you try to do something impressive that will draw her attention to you? Do you say stuff as if it's awesome, thinking it will impress her, only to be left feeling like a moron?

Maybe you're trying too hard

Well, isn't it time all that changed? I'm going to share with you some particular knowledge on impressing women and the best part is...it's not that hard to do! You just have to open your mind to the information I'm about to tell you.

Listen, I’ve got this friend who is always complaining about this sales man he works with, Geno. You have probably met guys like Geno. He's the type guy who dropped out of high school, talks like a wise guy but nevertheless has a good job making boo coo bucks and is surrounded by women.

Why is this high school dropout who failed miserably in school so successful at sales? How can he be better off than you? After all, you acquired an education, you had the good grades and you’ve worked your butt off the last several years. It just doesn't seem fair, does it?

Truly, the answer is pretty simple. There’s an old business saying that is widely accepted on its own merits. It states, “People buy from people.” Guys like Geno lack book-smart skills but they make up for this with people skills. That is why customers and women buy from him. These dudes may not have passed mathematics but they do know that if you add confidence plus charm, subtract anxiety alone with self-doubt, your chances of success simply multiply.

Causing People to Like You

You can’t force people to like you. You just have to know how to create a memorable impression. For myself, the most important attitude to have is to not care whether or not a person likes you. This goes for both men and women. The fact of the matter is this. You can’t make everyone to like you it’s unimaginable. To be honest, there are many people just not worth the time.

Women are attracted to open minded, unpredictable men. Unpredictability creates interest as long as it doesn't go off the deep end. It’s also helps for making male friends, even new business partners. Remember, at the end of the day... people buy from people. So, if people like you they’ll do business. But if not, you’re S.O.L. It won't matter how smart or how good looking you are.

Creating an Impression

Impressions are much the same as expected value. Good impressions add value, bad impressions decrease value.

For instance, people frequently want the things they think they can't have. Objectives that seem out of reach are often objects to exert effort or energy for, thus creating a form of value. When you're not concerned as to whether or not people like you, they most likely will be drawn towards you. You’ve just created an impression of being carefree or unworried (laid back, not to be confused with lazy). This is an appealing attribute.

This does not mean that you should put people off or act like a snob. You must be friendly, have an open mind and show concern for others well being.

Do the Unexpected

Have you ever noticed when bozos get girls they often act as though it’s the last thing on their mind? It’s as if they could care less if the girls were around them. The reason this attitude works so well is because the dude is doing the opposite of the expected. Many women have come to expect fellows to work hard for them, to be at their bidding. Guys such as Geno don’t do that because they’re calm and self - confident.

Smooth guys like Geno say things that make girls curious such as, "Wow, I just can't believe how much my life has changed since I left the homestead..." or "Say, I feel like I can actually trust you. I have some things I've never been able to tell anybody but I feel as though I can tell you."

Girls relish secrets, so if you can hint at having some secrets, you're guaranteed to hold her interest. When she's interested, guess what... you're in control. You can tease her by saying something to affect of, "Oh, you'll have to wait till next time to find out the details," or, "Woman, stop being so nosy! This stuff is personal. I'm not sure that I know you well enough yet." Many women enjoy to be led on and do the chasing.

By doing the unexpected you’re doing something someone isn’t used to, whether it’s a man or a woman. You’re breaking their standard concept of normal. All bets are off and they’re curious!

Enjoy Yourself

No matter what happens, it's important that you have fun. When you meet a girl at the bar, what do you usually ask her? “What’s your name?” or “What do you do for a living?” Boring because it's predictable. Your chances of hitting it off with her are pretty slim.

Check this out, what would happen if you did something she’s never encountered before? Now think of something you’ve never done before, something off the wall. Not rude, not arrogant, just fun.

Imagine going up to a girl and challenging her to a game of rock-paper-scissors, the loser buys the next drink. How different is that? Now you have just produced an impression of you as a unique, fun-loving guy. This is a positive trait.

When you can spark an emotion in someone, it will make an impression whether it’s good or bad. The ability to be unpredictable gives you the opportunity to turn an encounter with women from something intimidating into a chance of fun and enjoyment.

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